A MUM has revealed that she cheated on her partner with his best friend and now finds herself at a loss as to what to do next.

The woman, who has chosen to remain anonymous, has been in a relationship with her boyfriend for three years, and together they have a two-year-old daughter.

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However, after seeking advice from one of his friends, she found herself in a regrettable situation and ended up being unfaithful to her partner with his friend.

Taking to online forum Mumsnet, the woman wrote: “I know I deserve it, but Im coming here just to be called a c**t.

“I suppose Im just reaching out to anyone who might have been in a similar situation at some point.

“My boyfriend and I have a two-year-old daughter. We have a house (mortgage in his name), weve been together just over three years, and we share the same group of friends.

“I havent been happy or in love with my boyfriend for over a year. Hes a good person, a great dad, and my best friend, but I am not romantically in love with him. Our relationship happened way too fast.

“Rather than working through our problems or simply telling him I wasnt happy, I turned to his friend of 14 years (who was also my friend of five years) for emotional support.

“One thing led to another, and I thought I had feelings for him.

“I never slept with him but kissed him on several occasions and would secretly talk to him behind my boyfriends back.

“The guilt has been eating away at me for months now, and last night I told my boyfriend the truth.

“He is obviously heartbroken but has said he wants to be with me, provided I make a big change so he can trust me again.

“I honestly dont know if I want to be with him or not. I cant believe what Ive done to him and why he hasnt gone completely mad (I assume for our daughters sake, maybe).

“I have nowhere to go if we were to break up, no family I could stay with, and I cant bear the thought of my girl not seeing her dad as often as she does.

“I think I cheated because I was confused, and this lad showed me attention where my boyfriend didnt. Im weak and pathetic.

Our friends are hurt that we could do this to him, but to my surprise, theyve all been very supportive

Anonymous mum

“I think we both just want whats best for our daughter, but I dont know what the best way to move forward is or what I want.”

The mum then went on to ask other Mumsnet users if they had been through something similar.

She continues: “I know how out of order I have been. Believe it or not, its completely out of character for me.

“Our friends are hurt that we could do this to him, but to my surprise, theyve all been very supportive.”

Not a friend

The post attracted lots of attention with many people rushing to the comments section to share their thoughts.

One wrote: “You need to split. You arent happy. Carrying on when you dont love him is cruel. In some way worse than what you did with his friend.

“You dont love him and his friend is not a friend.

“You wouldnt have done that if you did.

Four red flags your partner is cheating

Private Investigator Aaron Bond from BondRees revealed four warning signs your partner might be cheating.

They start to take their phone everywhere with them

In close relationships, its normal to know each others passwords and use each others phones, if their phone habits change then they may be hiding something.

Aaron says: If your partner starts changing their passwords, starts taking their phone everywhere with them, even around the house or they become defensive when you ask to use their phone it could be a sign of them not being faithful.

You should also look at how they place their phone down when not in use. If they face the phone with the screen facing down, then they could be hiding something.

They start telling you less about their day

When partners cheat they can start to avoid you, this could be down to them feeling guilty or because it makes it easier for them to lie to you.

If you feel like your partner has suddenly begun to avoid you and they dont want to do things with you any more or they stop telling you about their day then this is another red flag.

Partners often avoid their spouses or tell them less about their day because cheating can be tough, remembering all of your lies is impossible and its an easy way to get caught out, says Aaron.

Their libido changes

Your partners libido can change for a range of reasons so it may not be a sure sign of cheating but it can be a red flag according to Aaron.

Aaron says: Cheaters often have less sex at home because they are cheating, but on occasions, they may also have more sex at home, this is because they feel guilty and use this increase in sex to hide their cheating. You may also find that your partner will start to introduce new things into your sex life that werent there before.

They become negative towards you

Cheaters know that cheating is wrong and to them, it will feel good, this can cause tension and anxiety within themselves which they will need to justify.

To get rid of the tension they feel inside they will try to convince themselves that you are the problem and they will become critical of you out of nowhere. Maybe you havent walked the dog that day, put the dishes away or read a book to your children before bedtime. A small problem like this can now feel like a big deal and if you experience this your partner could be cheating, warns Aaron.

“Staying together would be leading him on. You would need to ditch all the friends unless they decided to ditch his best friend.

“Of all the people you could have cheated with, you chose his best friend? Why did he have to be the one you turned to?”

Another added: “Just dont drag it out for the poor bloke.

“If you want to be with him and he still offers that, go for it.

You admit that youre not in love with him, and things moved too quickly

Anonymous mum

“But if you dont, please dont drag it out. Ive been in that position and its cruel.”

A third said: “What you need to ask yourself is this: if you didnt have your daughter, would you still be with your boyfriend?

“If the answer is no, then you have your answer. I wish I had done this when I had my dear son with my ex.

“I was desperate for it to work and tolerated things I wouldnt normally have accepted because we had our son, and I thought I owed him a family unit.

“It doesnt work. You admit that youre not in love with him, and things moved too quickly.”

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